Paul knows the pain of break ups and the extent to which the heart longs for and misses someone, even if they’re ultimately not the right one for you. Paul felt the same after his messy breakup with Marilyn. It took him years to get over her, and it wasn’t any easier when she moved straight on to date that meathead baseball player. You generally should never visit an ex, unless he’s just won the lottery and you think you might just catch him at a particularly generous moment.