Should I forgive her? Depends. Did she cheat on you with the entire football team? Or steal your last twinkie? Forgiveness is the best way forward in terms of your own positive psychology and sense of peace, but it can take a while to get to the stage of being ready to forgive. ‘Should I forgive her?’ Often a conundrum for certain. If you really can’t decide, Paul can decide for you. Paul is rumoured to have been intimately involved in negotiating the terms of surrender for Japan in the second World War, and in fostering a spirit of forgiveness in finding a direction forward in Japanese-American relations.